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Family gathering in Manistee

We hadn't been home two weeks from our trip visiting family in New England before we were back on the road again, this time catching up with the extended Bergman clan. 

The Bergman family --  consisting of nieces Christina, Melissa, and Rachel and nephew Jonathan, their spouses and their various children (ages 5ish to 20ish) -- have been gathering together (along with their parents) for reunions for some years. This year they planned to gather at a VRBO rental just north of Manistee, MI thanks to dad Carl's intrepid searching for a place to accommodate all of them. 

photo courtesy of Joyce Caldwell

So we grabbed our backpacks, toiletries and sundry items and headed off to Manistee. It was a nice, short (2-hour) drive up US 31 and, notwithstanding the frequently terrible roads here, we zipped right along on a gorgeous afternoon. Once we arrived in Manistee we searched for our hotel and found it right on the beach overlooking Lake Michigan.



After checking in we made our way to where the clan had settled in for the better part of the week. 

It turns out that Tuesday night was taco night compliments of Jonathan and his wife Naomi. (The siblings had divvied up the cooking with each family group responsible for a night of cooking.)

We had the great privilege of joining them for dinner followed by a laugh-filled round of Bernice Game sitting outside next to the fire pit.


The next morning after a walk down the beach to the lake we checked out of our hotel and returned to the Bergman apartments for a serious round of Bingo with Prizes. 




Eventually we had to say adieu and, a little after noon, we headed east to McBain in Missaukee County to catch up with Harvey Lucas and his wife Ev. Cousins of Susan's mom, we had not seen Harv and Ev for perhaps a couple of years or more and needed to spend some time sharing news and stories.

After plenty of warm conversation we said our second round of adieus to family and headed back home.  

There's nothing like spending time with family: from cute kids to lovely seniors it was a truly wonderful 24 hours on the road!


Off to Maine and more family

Monday-Thursday, June 8-11.

We're back on the road again. But this time the drive was short. Boring but short.

We said adios to Dick and Dorothy and headed north for the Maine woods. Traffic was surprisingly light and we made good time on I-495 west of Boston and I-95 north through New Hampshire and on into Maine. Once we arrived close to Bangor we drove straight to nephew Jon's home where Joyce was watching her grandkids. 

After spending a nice afternoon reconnecting with several of the Bergman kids and watching grandma help them with sewing projects we drove Joyce home where we caught up with Avery.

The plan was for us to check into our hotel, unpack and return to take them out for dinner.

And so we did.

Marsh Island Brewery

The four of us went to Marsh Island, a relatively recent addition to the eateries in Hampden. The service was very good, the outside semi-enclosed room quiet enough to have a decent conversation. The food was OK -- the fried cauliflower appetizer was very tasty and the girls had wedge salads which they enjoyed. Avery had fish and chips which he deemed delicious. I was the odd man out. I ordered the fried chicken plate and after a few bites thought the chicken quite "spongy" and oddly difficult to cut. Having gotten used to cooking with the superb Otto's chicken from Middleville, MI, this was a disappointment by comparison. But the local beer was tasty.

fried cauliflower

my fried chicken plate - note the beer looks like grapefruit juice 

wedge salad with pulled chicken

After dropping Joyce and Avery off back at their home we returned to the hotel and tucked in for the night. 

Tuesday morning opened cool and crisp. Since we had no agenda for today other than meeting up with family later this afternoon we relaxed over coffee in our room. We had brought our mini Nespresso with us on this trip -- in fact we usually bring it with us on long road trips -- so we always have pretty good coffee. Hotel coffee in places like Hampton Inn etc can often be dark but in actuality mostly brown water. Ya gotta be prepared when you travel, right?

Anyway, while Susan spent some quality time in the hotel pool, which she had all to herself, I worked on my Duolingo (I suppose I should call it my Triolingo: Spanish, Italian and German.) Early afternoon gave Susan and Joyce some time to chat and share many thoughts and feelings about life - the good and the not always so good.

Later afternoon we returned to Joyce and Avery's and, after a short visit spent with their gorgeous rhododendron, the four of us convoyed over to Bangor and Angelo's Pizzeria for dinner. There we met up with the Bergman clan: Jonathan, Naomi and their four kids, Addie, Johanna ("JoJo"), Abe and Eliza. Run by a Greek -- the tipoff were the series of (very old) photos of Athens and the Acropolis - the food was tasty and filling. I had a roast beef wrap, Susie had a custom pizza with chicken and broccoli while the group shared a variety of tasty pies.

Sisters Joyce and Susan


Susie's pie

We said our goodbyes to the Bergmans but that's only temporary. We'll see them all again later this month at the Bergman clan reunion in Manistee.

Joyce and Avery followed us back to our hotel and after parking we walked next door to Fielder's Choice for some of their delicious homemade ice cream. Apparently much of Bangor had the same idea and the place was packed, some of course playing mini golf, and the queue for the ice cream was serious.



It was a lovely evening and watching Americans lining up for food and entertainment is always fun.

The following morning we packed up, loaded the car and headed over to J&A's to say our final goodbyes (although they plan to be in Manistee as well). Susie also wanted to pick up a goat's beard plant that Joyce had split up for her -- and we were not surprised to see her in full Maine outdoor garb -- the black flies are terrible this time of year and this morning was no exception.


We were on the road by about 8:30 and made good time retracing our steps to Mass before turning due east and stopping for the night in Utica, NY. After checking in to our hotel we made our way to Ancora for dinner. Located right up Genesee Street from our hotel, we ate here in the winter of 2012 while passing through town and recalled a pleasant experience then. Although they had expanded somewhat in the intervening years we were not disappointed: Susie had a very nice chicken Caesar and I had chicken with orzo and asparagus.


The next morning we were back on the road for our final leg to Grand Rapids. Before leaving we submitted a number of complaints about the room -- it was really quite dumpy and broken -- and made our way back to the Thruway. 

The drive home took us about 9.5 hours but time went by rather fast we thought and our border crossings went off without a hitch. In fact we zipped right into Canada and thanks to our Global entry passes right into the US, no waiting thank you very much.

All in all a wonderful trip; seeing family and a few friends, experiencing new places and old, all at the price of a few dollars in tolls (OK maybe more than a few), and about 2500 miles. 

Not bad I'd say, not bad at all.

Oh, and we did make reservations on Air BnB for a home in the Upper Peninsula for four nights in late September. Stay tuned!


A Sunday in New England

Sunday, June 7.

Another beautiful day in Massachusetts. And a good day for a drive (back) to Rhode Island.

After a leisurely breakfast (after coffee in bed for some) the four of us headed south to Providence. The plan today was pretty simple: meet up with our friends Andrea and her mom Barbara for brunch at Bayberry Garden. We had eaten there with the same crew last summer and thought the food very good; we also enjoyed the open kitchen and wonderful airy space. Parking was the singular concern this morning but fortunately we found a convenient spot just a couple of blocks from the restaurant. 


It was interesting to be back in my old haunts near Davol Square (look it up) where I worked for some years for Johnson & Wales University. In fact, I used to walk to this neighborhood from our home on Westminster Street. 

We enjoyed another delicious meal while catching up with each other's lives. Oh, and I had the Shakshuka again thank you very much: 

A grand time was had by all.

l-r: Barbara, Dor, Susie, Dick, and Andrea and me

After saying adieu to our friends we made our way to Irregardless (not a spelling error) to pick up biscuits for tomorrow morning. (They ONLY do biscuits.) But really it was to see Joe Hafner, one of the co-owners. Joe and Susan worked together at Gracie's in Providence a lifetime ago. She was the pastry chef and he the executive chef. He hadn't changed much and was still the same ebullient, upbeat guy we had known for so many years. Gracie's was such a defining time for Susie and I suspect for him as well.

yep that's the biscuit place on the right

Susie and Joe



We made a quick stop at Whole Foods to drop an Amazon return off and then it was back to Douglas to relax until supper time.

A large part of the reason for this trip was to connect with family and friends and so far we've been hitting all cylinders. And this evening we were joined by niece Mallory and her dad Steele for dinner, another lovely home-cooked meal followed by lots of warm and lively conversation catching up with people we see far too infrequently.

Susie, Mallory, Steele, Dor, and Dick

After seeing Mallory and Steele off into the night the four of us chatted for a bit before bed. 

Tomorrow it's off to Maine for us to see more family!


Douglas, MA and the family portion

Friday-Saturday, June 5-6. 

Family, friends and food. That pretty much sums up our time back in New England. 

The trip from Gettysburg to Dick and Dorothy's home in Douglas, MA, took us about 7 hours of (mostly) interstate highway driving. The trip was uneventful -- always a plus -- and the first two or three hours took us through more stunning Pennsylvania scenery. Susan and I have driven through the Keystone State many times but I can't recall being so struck by the luscious scenery and often dramatic vistas we were treated to this time.

Anyway, we arrived late afternoon and spent a lovely evening sipping chilled sparkling wine on their patio before another of Dor's scrumptious meals (stuffed shells à la Cathy Van Halsema).

We eased into Saturday morning with coffee and a light breakfast before heading out to Rhode Island for lunch. It has become a tradition of sorts for the four of us have lunch at the Matunuck Oyster Bar. Even though they are still in the construction phase of rebuilding after their fire of over a year ago they still pack 'em in and Dick had the foresight to make reservations. Anyway, the temporary tent system works fine and is close to the water which made the air inside cool and comfortable.

temporary quarters


Susan had a salad with grilled chicken and Dor had her favorite: lobster roll

Dick had three "stuffies" - stuffed Quahog clams 

I had a scrumptious clam chowder with a a glass of Alagash ale

Note in the photo above the Westminster Crackers. They're made in Rutland, VT where we lived for nearly a dozen years. Curiously enough we lived on Westminster Street in providence for eight years. 

After a leisurely lunch -- leisurely as some of you have discerned from many previous posts -- is how we like to travel. I suppose that explains why even when we travel to Europe we like to be independent, on our own schedule and not at the whim of someone else.

Anyway, from Matunuck and Rhode Island we crossed over into Connecticut. Dick drove us through a number of quintessential New England villages through the countryside as we made our way to Priam Vineyards. Part of the Connecticut Wine Trail, Priam is perched on a lovely bluff and provides outdoor and indoor seating. 


Dick and Dorothy choose a local chardonnay and Susie and I split a very generous four-wine flight  of local whites (including one rosé) -- which we thought just OK. We sat outside enjoying the sun, interessting conversation with table "neighbors" and very nice live acoustic guitar music.

From the vineyard we made our way to the town of Wethersfield in Connecticut where we were to meet up with the MacDonalds at Lucky Lou's Bar and Grill. Unfortunately Glen was under the weather but we were joined by niece Christina and daughter Kiera.



I had a delicious lamb gyro with potatoes (as did Christina), Susie had a chicken gyro, Kiera pasta and Dick and Dorothy each had a salad.

The food was tasty, the beer cold, the conversation warm and lovely. 

After dinner the six of us strolled around the village before saying our goodbyes. We had no sooner returned to our cars than a terrific wind, rain and thunderstorm pelted us as we left town. Whew talk about timing.

All-in-all a lovely day meandering through rolling hills, reconnecting with family, enjoying good food and fellowship. 

Tomorrow we return to Providence for lunch with friends Andrea and her mom Barbara and dinner at Dick and Dorothy's tomorrow night with niece Mallory and her dad Steele.

Keep travelin'!!


Bernice Audrey Vanden Berg


Today was THE DAY my mother-in-law died in 2024. 

3448 Eagle Ridge Court, GR, MI, 2015

Her family gathered to celebrate her life on December 7. The weather, always an uncertainty in winter in Michigan, saw fit to cooperate for travelers coming from both sides of the country to honor and celebrate the memory of my mother-in-law, Bernice Vanden Berg.  

Bernie's memorial service was held at 1pm at Beckwith Hills CRC, preceded by visitation at noon and followed by social time with coffee and sweet treats compliments of the French Tarte and the ladies at Beckwith Hills church. 

Here is a link to the memorial service. Please note that the service itself does not begin until 30 minutes into the taping. Photos of the service and social hours courtesy of Dick Van Halsema.


At noon family and friends gathered in the lounge of the church to visit and catch up with one another.



The service was conducted by Laurie Ten Have-Chapman. Besides being an ordained minister, Laurie also happened to be one of Bern's nieces and knew what a truly wonderful person she was and most likely still is. Laurie was ably assisted by Stan Sturing, interim pastor at Beckwith Hills. 

Granddaughter Rachel Engels read a beautiful essay of loving remembrances of Bern while several other grandchildren read bible passages that Bern had expressly asked to be included in her service. In fact, Bern had meticulously planned her service years in advance and it was simply a matter of following her direction.



granddaughter Melissa Parker

grandson Jonathan Bergman

Pastor Stan Sturing

granddaughter Rachel Engels

Pastor Laurie



granddaughter Mallory Shane

nephew Garrett Ten Have-Chapman

. . . and his beautiful voice




Following the service old friends, church friends and family met together to swap stories of days long gone, of memories of Bern and growing up in Fremont, MI, all the while enjoying sweet treats:

son-in-law Avery Caldwell and daughter-in-law Dorothy Vanden Berg

grandchildren Ben Schaap and Christina MacDonald

Mallory Shane and her mother, Bern's daughter Mary Battjes

granddaughter Melissa Parker and daughter Joyce Caldwell

grandchildren and siblings Rachel Engels and Jonathan Bergman

Christina, Ben, and Joyce (Christina's mother and Ben's aunt)

far left: niece Brenda Friedman and Mary Battjes

granddaughter Naomi Bergman, Dorothy Vanden Berg, nephews Scott Galloway and Clark Van Halsema

niece Mieke Van Halsema (center)





One very special moment occurred when the former Fremonters (Fremont, MI) came together for a once-in-a-lifetime photo. 

These "kids" lived in the same neighborhood, played together, schooled together, and basically grew up together. Those defining years have held them together no matter how distant they might have become geographically. They shared each other's homes and parents, now all gone; parents who were good and true friends and, if the stories handed down to me are in any way accurate, the very best of neighbors.

the Fremont contingent




John Deur, Garth Deur, Ruth (Okkema) Bratt,  Jonell (Deur) Pettinga, Joyce (VandenBerg) Caldwell, Ross Pettinga, and Susie VandenBerg 

Fred Pettinga and Joyce Caldwell

the grandchildren: Mallory Shane, Christina MacDonald, Melissa Parker, Rachel Engels, Ben Schaap and Jonathan Bergman

After the social hour and everyone dispersed, the family came over to our condo for a short visit, which entailed more story swapping of course. 

A little after 5pm the family returned to the church for pizza supper (from Licari's).



photo compliments of Carl Bergman

A grand day celebrating the life of a truly wonderful woman. . . 

Family gathering in Manistee

We hadn't been home two weeks from our trip visiting family in New England before we were back on the road again, this time catching up ...